Karena Aku Bukan Objek Seksmu!
Posted September 12, 2007on:
One of the reasons why Islam is perceived as a traditional religion by the Western society is because they think Islam oppresses Muslim women too much. People in the West think that women in Muslim society are just second-class people whose presence is just to please Muslim men: men are Imams therefore they are the absolute leaders, men know things better than women, and men are much stronger while women are so weak. Men are simply the winners!
When people in the West knew that there was a regime called Taliban in Afghanistan that forced women to wear burqas they just couldn’t believe it, they started to blame Islam for its traditional and anti-modernization teaching. Most feminists agree that burqa is a symbol of women’s slavery caused by men’s arrogance. While a man should grow his beard, which seems to be so easy for Western feminists, a Muslim woman in Afghanistan had to cover all her body with no excuse under the Taliban regime. I’m not a fan of women in burqas myself, I mean, look at the two women on the picture above, do you think that is the kind of clothing we should tell our wives and daughters to wear?
But Western feminists don’t stop there because they also think that the common Islamic women’s clothing is no different from burqa, it just keeps Muslim women from being free and independent. Western feminists don’t agree with the Islamic concept of women’s clothing that claims it is intended to protect women from having a disgrace in the society. Basically, A Muslim woman is encouraged to wear clothes that cover all her body except her hands and face: for me the use of burqa is a joke.
Of course it is hard for people in the West to understand and accept the concept of women’s clothing in Islam when they think beautiful women should look like this:
In a sex-driven world, as a friend of mine told me, physical elements are all that matter. Having a big house and some fancy cars is definitely very important, so it is not a big surprise that being sexy is something that every woman wants to be: no wonder plastic surgery is getting more popular every day in the West as more and more women would like to have bigger breasts and skinnier bodies.
The idea behind jilbab, as Indonesians say it, is that Islam gives women a choice to avoid themselves from being objects of sex. If you don’t really like the argument then please tell me what is the reason for a modern woman to wear sexy clothes. If you think the reason that a woman wants to look sexy is just because she wants to look beautiful, you are not completely wrong. But, who defines beauty? In this sex-driven world, it is sad to say that men have the so-called authority to define who’s beautiful and who’s not. It is men, not women themselves, who want to see women in bikinis, right?
In Indonesia we have this famous celebrity Ineke Koesherawati who seems to be everyone’s favorite. She is a beautiful woman and she has a smile that will melt a guy’s heart in a second. She wears jilbab everywhere she goes and she wears jilbab in every sinetron she plays, jilbab is her true identity. She is a role model for thousands of Indonesian Muslim girls, and I’m sure you will see a lot of her in this coming ramadhan. But, for you who don’t really know her you might be surprised to know that Ineke Koesherawati was once a “Bom Seks,” a term that Indonesians use for an actress who exploits her body sexually to attract audience. Check some of her movie titles in the past: Diskotik DJ, Gadis Metropolis, Gairah yang Nakal, Kenikmatan Tabu, Ranjang Ternoda, and Bebas Bercinta. If you see her right now you will have a difficult time trying to figure it out how the hell she could play in such movies. I tried so hard to find a picture of hers in the past, you know with all the sexy clothes, but somehow I couldn’t get one. So, as a replacement I put a picture of Jessica Alba below who was nominated as the 2007 sexiest woman in the planet. I want you to compare the two pictures of Ineke and Jessica, and tell me what you have in mind when you see those two pictures.
Remember, I mentioned earlier that the basic concept of Islamic women’s clothing is to give women a second choice to avoid themselves from being objects of sex. Men who see these two pictures have to be honest, which picture gives you more pleasure sexually? If you are normal, I’m sure you will admit that picture of Jessica Alba has the ability to get you aroused in some ways. The Western society may want to argue, especially the Liberals, that the world has changed. The Western society, who is so proud of its modern accomplishments, seems to have their own theory on this matter and for them religions may not be part of it. They claim that if a group of people have to follow too many restrictions in life, it will end up being an uncivilized society, a disabled society full of hypocrites. And they actually have a point, look at how many countries who claim that they are religious nations but at the same time they have a high rape rate. But Islamic clerics have their own argument saying that too much of everything is not good, they complain that life has limits, “In the past sex was a taboo, but now you have proud gays and lesbians, you even have some nudist sects. What next?”
I think the Western society puts too much pressure to Islam on this issue, I believe they should be wiser. The reason for me to say that is because the kind of clothing that Islam encourages women to wear is not something new for Western society, a Christian-dominated society, after all. In Roman Chatolics they have nuns or sisters who profess the perpetual solemn vows of poverty, chastity, and obedience. These nuns can’t get married and they have to sacrifice all their material desires for Jesus. In case you don’t know how nuns dress, I already put a picture showing how a nun should dress. The original clothing of a nun doesn’t allow her to show all her body except her face and hands, and if you say that you’ve seen some nuns wearing moderate-short skirts then they are just a variety due to cultural changes and other things. Therefore, for me it’s not supposed to be a big joke for people in the West when they know Islam tells its female followers to cover up their bodies in so-called Arabic way. If Christianity thinks that its holy women should wear clothes that cover all their bodies, then I think it is not a bizarre thing for Islam, which claims to be a religion to perfect two earlier religions (Christianity and Judaism), to instruct women to wear veils or jilbab.
The main problem lies on how two sides see this issue and provide their arguments. Islam thinks that Islamic-women’s clothing actually protects women from being dependent to what men want, Islam argues that being beautiful in the heart is much more important than just being beautiful from the outside. On the other hand, critics of Islam think that jilbab or Muslim veil is a symbol of women’s oppression, it is a tool for men not to let women be creative and independent. But, which women who actually have more freedom? The ones with bikinis or the ones with Muslim veils?
I admire your dedication, your pride, and your inner beauty. I want you to be proud of what you believe, and I want you to shout these words to the world, “Karena aku bukan objek seksmu!”